Category Archives: Personal Development

Be enthusiastic, give excellent demonstrations and be nice to people.

Doing these three things can carry you far in any area of life. If your athletes / clients, even people in general enjoy being around you, they feel as if you have their best interests at heart they will listen to what you have to say.

It can take time and experience to build knowledge and competence, but enthusiasm, work ethic and positivity are attributes that you can control no matter the situation you are in.

Have you ever been unhappy when a baby or a puppy is around? No? I know I light up when one is in the same room as me. THe enthusiams theh have is infectious. if you are enjoying yourself, your coaching and yourself, your members will enjoy it too. THis is vital as exercise is not alwasy easy, especially for beginners who might find the gym an intimidating place to face.

Be the best part of your clients day, after-all, they have given you this great trust of orchestrating their life for x amount of hours / week. Make it an enjoyable experience and you will never have a shortage of people to train!

The Power of Action

Ideas are great, they come and go and constantly evolve in your head but they can never amount to nothing without action. Action is the major key when you plan on self improvement.

You could have all the books in the world on self improvement but never actually improve oneself. Why? Why is it that this happens? Why is it that there are countless books out there that promise to change your life and the way you view it but nothing ever comes of them?

It’s simple. People do not take action with what the knowledge they have just soaked up.

Action is what is going to get the ball rolling on your new adventure whatever it is.

People have this necessity to acquire new information and knowledge but never have the urgency to put this knowledge into action. To me, this matters the most when it is your character you plan on developing.

I recently came across this quote and I find it very fitting here. 

“Get busy with life’s purpose, toss aside the empty hopes, get active in your own rescue – if you care about your self at all – and do it while you can.” Marcus Aurelius

From this quote I feel as if this is a good way of thinking. You are only going to change if you take action.

So what are you waiting for?

5 Steps to Find Your Core Values

Personal Core Values are the fundamental beliefs of a person or a business. These guiding principles can dictate behavior, and help you to understand what is wrong or right in life.

Knowing your core values and having the courage to act on them for the greater good is what will help you be an efficient leader.  Personal Core Values can be broken into two forms of values, Personal and Core.

Personal Values are generally lessons learned from life experiences

Core Values are embedded in you during your upbringing. They tend to be influenced by who we see as role models or who we look up to.

Many people claim to know what their personal core values are. I have the mindset that you do not really know them until you have your values written down on paper clearly and / or have tested them through life’s decision-making.  Personal core values are there to guide your choices in life, if you get them right, decision making will be swift and focused.

Here is a list of my own personal core values and what they stand for.

Integrity: to live and work consistently working my personal core values. To stand up for what I believe in:

  • Integrity: to work and live consistently within my core values. To stand up for my own personal beliefs.
  • Leadership: My aim is to motivate and help people get into a better place in life.
  • Happiness: to be content with myself and my life.
  • Loyalty: to be committed to the goals of a group of people who have the same belief/ view/ values as I do.
  • Health and Wellbeing: to be physically and mentally healthy. After all, your health is your wealth!!
  • Family and Friendship: this is a massive value for me, without my friends and my family I would not be where I am today. I have surrounded myself with the right people to push and challenge me in the right direction.
  • Influence: to have a positive effect on the character of behaviour of another person. This is another big value for me, there is nothing that gives me more satisfaction than having a positive influence on someone. I see this a lot with the Rebel Wheelers. I love showing the kids that just because they have a disability it does not mean they have to go through life and not smash their own targets or get to where they want to be in life. A wheelchair is not a limiting factor in life. A wheelchair is there to give you the ability to get out and do things.

Do you know what your own personal core values are? Here are a few questions to ask yourself to assess your own values.

Step 1

  • What have been your three greatest accomplishments?
  • What have been your three greatest moments of efficiency?
  • Are  there any commonalities with these two?

Step 2

  • What have been your  three greatest failures?
  • What have been your three greatest moments of inefficiency?
  • Are there any commonalities between these two?

Step 3

Write down three or four sentences of advice you would give yourself based on these commonalities.

Step 4

Try and reduce these pieces of advice into a few words. For example; “Don’t over eat on unhealthy foods and drink.” try saying ” “Keep control through moderation”.

Step 5

Now you need to go and test these values. If you feel good after them then these values are for you. If on the other hand, you are kicking yourself after testing these and thinking that they go against everything you believe in. Then maybe these are the wrong values for you and you might have to tweak or come up with new values to suit you at this time.

This process does take time and dedication, but it will do you good. You can try doing this with someone you trust. They will give you good honest feedback on what they think and if they feel these are your true values.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.” Mahatma Ghandi

99 Broken Bones on the Wall

Since birth I have suffered with a disease called Oseteogenesis Imperfecta (OI) or to the everyday person, Brittle Bones. To this day I have had 99 fractures. This may seem like a lot, but when it comes to Brittle Bones its far from a lot! This is  a disease that causes bones to be brittle and break easily. OI is caused by a defect in the collagen in the bone. Collagen is what causes you bones to be strong. A lack of collagen will mean that the bones are weaker. OI can also cause your teeth to be brittle and affect hearing. In the more extreme types it can also effect muscle strength.

OI is caused by either being inherited from your parents or if your (un)lucky like me a gene mutation.  This happens when a gene dominant  mutation is paired with a ‘normal’ gene. When a mutation occurs it only has to be one faulty gene to have the genetic disorder. For most people with OI this is the case. They will have one faulty type 1 collagen gene and one normal type 1 collagen gene.

Over the years I’ve had numerous fractures. 99 to be precise! I’ve come to realise that with these fractures usually comes a sort of grieving process.

  • Denial
  • Anger / Frustration
  • Depression
  • Acceptance

The denial is pretty short-lived when it comes to breaking a bone. For me, I’ll hear the crack of the bone and think ‘Oh sh*t, did I imagine that or did it actually just happen?’ Then you’ll get a bit of an adrenaline rush, (weird I know) and then the pain kicks in and you realise that yes, it did actually just happen.

Anger, Frustration and Depression. Ah the terrible three’s as I like to call them! The three of these sort of go hand in hand with one another.  When I was younger, before I started my medication I was nearly coming out of one cast and would be back into another one before you could blink. That’s how regular my fractures would have been.  Thinking back to then, I would have gotten frustrated a lot with my breaks.  I felt as if I was always on my back foot. I would make the slightest bit of progress and then end up going back two steps. I always felt as if the world was against me so to speak. It was very debilitating, as a kid being bed bound at some stages for weeks on end was absolute torture!

The depression of breaking a bone did not really hit me until recently. Fracture #97 and #98 were definitely when I realised that I was not ok after breaking a bone. These fractures happened in the build up to European Championships and it completely wrecked my mind-set. Not so much the fact that I broke my leg, but it was the sense of I worked my ass off for months on end to have it all taken away from me in a blink of an eye.

Acceptance, a bit of a weird one for me. I accept that it has happened as soon as I break a bone, but I still go through the other stages at the same time.

From realising that this was happening, I came up with a routine I go through now to try to counteract this from happening in the future.

  • Set Goals
  • Create a routine to go through every morning
  • Practice mindfulness
  • Eat healthy
  • Continue training and exercising to your ability

There is no point in getting worked up over the things you cannot change. I’ve come to terms with this and that I will almost certainly have more fractures to come in my life. But I will not let them get the better of me, life, in my view is too short to keep getting down and knocked backwards after every upset.

Memento Mori 

If you would like more information on OI here are a few links to check out.

http://www.oif.org/site/PageServer?pagename=fastfacts

http://www.brittlebone.org/